Live in the present. The people who are the happiest with their lives are able to enjoy and embrace the present moment instead of being stuck on the past or obsessing over the future will look like. Though thinking of the past can help us learn from our mistakes and thinking of the future can help you set goals and be a good long-term planner, if you want to be happy with what you do have, then take some time to enjoy exactly what you’re doing right now. Focus on what the day will bring you instead of what happened yesterday or what you’ll be able to change about tomorrow.
Close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Focus on being in the moment and you’ll feel all of your worries melt away. Be patient: this takes practice.
You can also meditate or do yoga to help yourself focus on the present moment instead of worrying about what the future may bring.
Be grateful for what you have. Instead of focusing on all the things you don’t have or all of the things you want, take a minute to think about how lucky you are compared to most people out there. Though your life may not be perfect in the moment, there are surely some things that you can be very grateful for, whether it’s your loving family, your amazing friends, your great relationship, your health, your cool new job, the awesome city where you live, or your amazing home. You probably don’t have all of these things (most people don’t!) but surely there are a few things you can remind yourself to be grateful for every single day.
- Write a gratitude list every Sunday to remind yourself of all the great things in your life.
- Take the time to thank people for helping you, whether you do it in person or you write a “thank you” card.
- Spend more time in nature. This will make you feel more grateful for the beauty all around you.
- Even if you’ve had a horrible day, try to think of three little things that made it worthwhile. Maybe it was the unexpected kind email from an old friend, a great conversation with your neighbor, or the amazing new coffee you had with your breakfast.